You will need to purchase the black spirit pass from inside the game.

There are different game packages

Traveler's Edition, Explorer's Bundle, Conquerer Edition (other editions form time to time)

You can buy all of these or just one but you need at least one of these to play as you well know. These only include the benefits listed. Yours in question has the following perks:

If you want the Black Spirit Pass, you will need to purchase the pass by itself. Click on the pearl shop at the bottom right of the screen. Shown here:

Then find the Black spirit pass which looks like this:

As far as the edition that you have purchase, it's unlikely that you can get a refund for it, but you can certainly try if you send them a support ticket immediately. Don't use any item that you have received because that will void any opportunity for a refund.

To get support visit: https://support.pearlabyss.com/blackdesert_naeu/en-US/Category and then at the top-right, click on [ Submit an Inquiry ]