The same question you asked me goes for you too. :)

This is an MMO where Batman's villain Two Face would love

"Can't hurt your chances"

If you don't like the game don't play it. The enhancing system is how the game makes money off whales. Tuvala taking time to get is just RNG oh well. The season also gives a free PEN capotia  neck for completing the pass and graduating it. Oh well you have  to stay on a season char longer ti finish the accessories. Even if season was to end and you miss a few a. Grinding just for cash you can get tri accessories on the cheap nowadays. Thier like 50 mil per or just buy them straight up.

Bdo is a marathon  not a sprint. Take your time and always know you can always just bypass enhancing by paying silver for stuff. Tuvala accessories are just TRI if your having bad luck on enhance just spend silver you should  have  been earning while gaining said stones

and here i am this season making my entire pen tuvala set without ever doing 1 rift, only using materials from areas, ancient weapon world spawns. 

Rng is Rng. Use valks, use your Nadaars parchment 

I do agree that RNG based gear progression is a stupid archaic mechanic that should be tossed out. It's plagued mmos since their inception. 

This is an aged old discussion and debate over the definition of games and gambling.  From most points of view they are one in the same.  If people sit around playing poker for peanuts or candy, it is the same game as poker played for high stakes cash.  Here in my state the "Gaming Commission" is in charge of the casinos.  Notice the word "Gaming" and not gambling?   If you sit down in the kitchen and play Monopoly one gets the same gambler's high from winning the game, it is just human nature.  If we wish to keep our games online, we need to govern ourself and not allow some small group do it for us.  Case in point is the Netherlands and their policy of online gaming.

My only concern is children are being taught to gamble on Facebook and other game sites with Candy Crush, Bingo Blitz, etc..  While these games promote free play, they also request payment to better your odds at winning.  These are akin to the introduction drug that gets them to start playing on the real online casinos once they hit legal age (18 or 21 in most states).  There is nothing wrong with seeking help, yet again, this issue needs to be self governed by the parents and people need to stop looking at others (government bodies) to stop it for them.  We have advanced in technology far beyond our need to advance our social requirements.

Id rather have a system that respects the players time. If you spend 2 hours grinding (as an example not as actual number) and use that money to pay for enhancing mats and it fails that attempt cost you 2hrs IRL. No big deal do it again its only 2 hours. But after a while that adds up and eventually it will go or it wont. Heck ive tried to tet my BS weapon 50 times and built a lot of pen stacks doing it so yea it gave me something but using the above example number 50attempts 2hrs per is 100hrs gone which is a little over 4 days. Now take people that spend more than 50 thats even worse. Its not that we want "spoonfed" its that we want the game to respect player time investment and not give us shit RNG boxes with shiny lables that we all know will most likely be a huge F U to the player when they get a measly 5 mem frags or a few sharp or hard crystals.

At what point do we as the players respect our own time enough to tell them enough is enough? How many hours or how much grinding would we consider a reasonable amount? Because in its current state, this game dev could give 2 shits about our time. You can make excuses for them or wake up and realize the only thing keeping this game alive is how good the combat system is. Take that away and its worse than a mobile cash grab game.

Black Desert's end-game progression is the most boring type of progression system I have ever encountered in the half or so dozen MMORPGs I've played.

I'm at the point where PEN Deboreka accessories are the only meaningful choice of upgrades and the process to obtain these items is insanely time consuming and extremely monotonous. On top of that, end-game gearing doesn't provide any unique "must have" effects or signficant power increases to justify the time and effort required. At least in other MMORPGs, there are weapons, armour, crystals and other items that are highly desirable for the exact class or specilisation you play. At least in other MMORPGs, the process to obtain these items is made with an attempt to be enjoyable and engaging.

It's great that Black Desert's gear progression system allows players to retain their gear and power over time but the lack of an interesting, engaging and enjoyable progression system as well as a severe lack of diverse choice of items in the game ends up making the game very linear.