Some of us go to school, some of us go to work, there are some of us here trying to desperately find a new job. Politics and economics is at its worse (so far) and friends and family can occasionally invite drama. We occasionally get overwhelmed with stress and sometimes take it out on strangers online or in-person. This thread is for people to just unwind and destress. Say what you will (BDO related), get it off your chest, make yourself feel better so that you can live a happier life.

We come to BDO to destress, not to add more to it. If you're playing the game and get nothing but stress, you're playing it wrong or perhaps the game's mechanics aren't supporting its players the way they could. Did something amazing happen? Something stressful occur? Share your story!

No need to reply to specific posts or continue from where someone leftoff unless it's part of your destressor. Try avoiding downvoting anything you disagree with or getting into arguments, let's just all be chill with eachother's opinions and experience for once. There are a million other threads that you can argue, let's keep this one civil. ;D

I for one have had a very stressful 2 years, had a lot of work, more work to do than usual. So I occasionally would get snappy at some people on the forums and apologize for that behavior, it's not really in my nature but it's been crazy enough of a time to lash out here and there. I've been resting lately and been able to do a lot of self reflection, I really need to turn that attitude around and not go back.

One thing that has been stressing me has been when you just want to play your favorite MMO after a long day, and just do something relaxing like sailing or gathering trees and someone just murders you. You don't want to engage in combat, you just want to do something peaceful. But your boat is sunk, or you have to change server and hope no one is there because the guy is just there waiting for you to come back just to keep killing you. Of course, a shai is no match against a zerker so it's pointless to try. One coud say I should have just played a different game that night and that's true, I could have... But I would rather enjoy BDO more. I don't particularly worry about the open world PvP but sometimes I just want to relax on my main character, you know?

I am going to say this straight.

BDO is like a second home for me. It gave me the opportunity to be myself and put my feet up when I am home from work to escape from reality. Not only that, BDO has given me the opportunity to make new friends and helped me fight against depression and not think about suicide (yes, BDO helped me forget about that). However, with all this PVP and PVX pulling me down the dumps to wasting my time while life skilling and for PKer to think it's funny to PK life skills while I am trying to have fun... it's not okay....

Look here, I don't mind PVP. in fact, I love PVP! I used to play Call Of Duty to Division 1 & 2!!  However, the problem here is: PA failed to implement PVP into PVX properly. In fact, it's done so poorly that PK just run wild and did not give a dam!

Edit: I life skill a lot and it kept me happy and calm. Also the guild I have, I have good friends that I can call home. The reason I used to play PVP is I want to get my stress out and forget. But BDO came and helped. It helps me cope with my issues waaay better! It's because of the Life Skill mechanics and RP. Yes, we RP and do group content a lot! :D

All I can say is that at first I didn't know where to start from. And TBH most of my own problems are personal. And most of them never cease to test my own mental health. Until I just listen with one ear and goes out through the other.

I frequently get the blame for everything from one family member, even if I am just helping him to get out of pretty bad situations. But even if I do, I still get yelled and insulted for nothing. I really hate this narcisistic alzheimer (he really has that from my perspective. I am just suspitious). Cherry of the cake. I am supposed to do his needs, because he's a lazy P.O.S. It doesn't matter where I go or what I do. And if I refuse to, I am called lazy. Greed, jealosy, gluttony, sloth, envy... At this rate, I just want to get rid of him as cruel as it can sound, I sometimes am on the brink of snapping. One time my own hands were shaking in the mood to beat someone already. My own psychic is tested nearly every day. And please, don't ask me how I hold up. I frequently am trying to avoid bringing all this elsewhere and be more positive - be it somewhere public or on the internet. And I began to look less and less on the forums most times. Since I frequently see either false claims or really terrible ideas or somebody making some sort of a topic showing low morale or just randomly show low level of intellect and trying to mislead someone.

Oh man, I hope you can find a way out of that stressful situation that truly helps you in a positive way.  Dont' do anything you'll regret later.  My best advice is to always remember your true worth, that you're a good person, and sometimes toxic people will test that.

PEN DISTO'S ARE NEAR 200 BILLION SILVER !!!! >:(

PEN LUNAR IS OVER 150 BILLION !!! >:(

I JUST WANT FULL PEN EVERYTHING, C20, WITH AT LEAST ONE DARN ACCURACY ACCESSORY....... BUT THESE PRICES KEEP GOING UP !!!!

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Im the same for the last part, well im doing a degree in concerned that well im doing it PA may take some people's suggestions seriously ,when the "person" doesnt even play bdo and just want to kill of the game off, litterally the best chill out game even if it is time consuming to the hilt :v

Edit : also hope things improve for you soon to --

At least you got an idea, how I endure narcisism from an alzheimer for years. :) And I am bulletproof to any kind of manipulations I've witnessed so far. In fact, I can easily detect one.

Thank you for the concern. It's appreciated. I will be fine. It takes me more to bring me down. :) And it's a common Bulgarian trait to resist everything thrown at you and still come on top. It's what I heard from fellow countrymen. And when time comes, I have the feeling I'd be on the seventh sky...

lol reminds me when i finally had enough money and they inflated the prices for some armor and so i was back at the beginning again. Another time I had bought the accessories for the book but couldn't complete the chapters since they had to be done in order and they changed the requirements. I lost like 700mil just like that. I managed to sell one of the rings that I bought for 500mil+ for about 120mil. So sad. REEEEE---

only Unwind and destress on black desert for me is dressing my waifu, nothing else

it is not like on the first guild war and tera, both have more friendly pvp mode, better pve quest, better party system and special event able to aggro several hundred people in same spot to participate