Just want a pretty looking game where I can slay mobs for exp over and over, dont really care about pvp, like playing mindless games while I work, i dont really care for professions or any of that, im more than happy just spamming one button on a mob over and over for some gold. My main interest in bdo comes from it looking like the best mmo on the market rn and being very grindy.

You are in the right place. Good luck. 

But you must know that owPvP exist. More comon on top sots. But there are places that its rare to see other people.

If you don't want to worry about other players there's Season Servers, Olvia PvE server, lesser populated grind spots and Marni's realm which is a private instance of the zone you want to grind (up to an hour a day).

BDO can be both something you can turn off your brain or something you have to engage in depending on what you decide on doing. So you're fine with whichever path you want to take. Just letting your mind go into a meditative state while you grind is pretty relaxing.

I hope we get more 1 shot zooming spots with good income. Hate the tanky monster meta