I get disconneceted atleast 5 times day usually in a 4 - 6 hour play session yet my internet is still working as are other games. So I must assume either its a bad connection between me and this server or many other people also experience this and its a pearl abyss issue.

Where do I find the servers ip address so I can do a trace? This would allow me to bitch at my isp if its something they need to fix and not a pa issue.

If you're using Windows 10, you can open task manager then click on performance tab then click on ressources monitor on the bottom.

The network part of the ressource monitors will show BDO process associated with the IP address you're looking for.